In this post I focus on one issue that comes up a lot in my counselling work: the distinction between effects and responses, and how differentiating between these notions is crucial when it comes to how we assign responsibility for our own and other people’s feelings and actions.
Read moreDon't Judge Resistance by How it Appears
Whenever we come up against adverse conditions or mistreatment, we resist. Sometimes the ways people resist are misleading: they appear to be negative or self-harming, but are actually important acts of self-care. In this post I take a closer look at how so-called "negative" emotions, actions, or attributes can serve the purpose of resisting adversity.
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“Resistance” is one of those words whose meaning changes significantly depending on the person talking about it. In social activist circles, it may be used to describe the act of standing against oppressive or problematic forces. In psychology, it’s a term with a history of mostly negative implications. But is that really the most helpful stance we can take on resistance?
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